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Thirty Things I have Decided Not to Be Ashamed of. A guest post from Abby Norman.



Goodness me – how excited am I to share this post? A LOT, that’s what I say. The thing is with lot’s of these, I can hear myself saying them, and with the most of the rest I can hear my best friend saying them. So grateful for this Abby.

My word for this year is unashamed. I’m not even really sure how I heard about it, but it beats the heck out of a new years resolution. At least this I can keep track of. Unashamed for me, has been less about actuall shame, and more about a posture. Standing tall in things that are me. Even if other people think it is stupid . or silly, or wrong. Ev en if things are complicated, I need to own them, unashamed.

  1. I can drink Guinness, and would still prefer Mike’s hard blood orange. Yup, alcoholic orange soda is delicious. Why would I want to be in the mood for something sophisticated, when I could have my alcohol mixed with high fructose corn syrup.
  2. Sometimes, I would rather stab myself in the eye than cuddle my own kids. I am a working mom and therefore supposed to savor every second of time I get with my kiddos, but my youngest is a night sweater. I don’t care how precious your six month old is, waking up in a pool of someone elses sweat is disgusting.
  3. I have opinions. A lot of them, about everything, from what my students are wearing to what the president said. I have tried not caring, but I do. I care.
  4. I believe in priveledge and will point out yours if you don’t see it. There is nothing that makes me more angry than people thinking they don’t benefit from being in the majority. I am not saying you didn’t work hard, I am just saying you benefit from the system. I just want you to acknowledge that.
  5. I like sweet wine, cheap sweet wine. It is delicious and I want it with my steak even if a red dry wine would „pair better.“ If you are going to make me drink red wine, I am going to secretly drop a few icecubes in it. I cannot abide room temperature wine, even if I am supposed to.
  6. I was miraculously healed. This one is complicated. I keep this story tight to my chest becaue I understand that not everyone is healed. I don’t want my story to hurt those who are still waiting, but I had fibromyalgia and now I don’t. I isn’t mysteriously in remission like I sometimes tell my doctors, it is gone from the moment I had a vision about it.
  7. I hear from God. I always have. Sometimes I know things people haven’t told me. Sometimes I get a question I need to answer to be ready in six months. Once I was told that God would use my voice and spent years thinking christian music star. Now I get it, and am writing my first book.
  8. I still believe my twins are coming. I believe I heard from God that I would have boys, twin boys. I have their names, ones that were given to me before I knew they meant the same thing. The plan is to adopt next, and I honestly believe we will be miraculously paired with twin boys.
  9. I had to quit pinterest for my mental health. Seriously, Pinterest made me feel so inadequate about my house, my classroom, my mothering, the amount of pictures I took and the settings they were in, my kids‘ birthday parties, what I cooked, my nail polish or lack there of. Then I quit looking, and suddenly I no longer knew or cared how inferior I was.
  10. I take meds for depression. St. John’s Wort to be specific. Every once in awhile it will be working so well that I decide I don’t need it anymore, and then I go off it. I need it. Without it everything is terrible and insermountable, even finding traffic every day.
  11. I love television built for teens. Gossip girl, Dawson’s Creek, Pretty Little Liars, I could watch them all day.
  12. I hate award winning movies. At the same time, if it won an Oscar I am uninterested. All of those movies are depressing and sad, and I simply do not have the attention span to do anything but fall asleep during them.
  13. I have a secret dream of writing hilarious mystery novels that are a little predictable, and totally FUN. I would give you all the details, but I don’t want you to steal my ideas. But it will be about a couple of retirees who travel around the country with their poodles the wife affectionately calls „the girls.“
  14. Sometimes, I just want to get out of the deep end of the emotional pool and laugh until I pee my pants. I love to go deep, but all of the time? It makes me exhausted. I think we can bond and learn as much about each other by really laughing hysterically together.
  15. I do actually laugh until I pee my pants.
  16. I have a direction infection. I know I am not supposed to, but the fifteen year old girls I teach got me hooked on One Direction. You don’t know your beautiful!
  17. I wish the Spice Girls would get back together, not just for a tour. Permanently, and be on my Ipod all day long.
  18. I hate concerts. I know it is the thing that I am supposed to do, go to a concert and have some sort of moment where the whole world makes sense, but really I just sit there refusing to buy the ten dollar beers and mad becuase my feet hurt and I paid 50 bucks to stand up and crane my neck for hours.
  19. I have no real taste for any particular music, because I love talk radio. Trashy talk radio, NPR, I would listen to it all day long. It is the thing for people in their late twenties and early thirties to pay attention to music to prove they are still cool, but I am not cool. And I don’t much care what music we are listening too (mostly becuase you are going to poo-poo my suggestions of Spice Girls and One Direction).
  20. Soap Operas, yes please! I love when the people come back  to life, when they make a cloan, when someone marries a mother and then three years later a daughter. It is supposed to be unrealistic. That is what we call, escapism.
  21. Twitter still makes me feel like an unpopular kid in the school cafeteria. I don’t think that is likely to change. Please cool kids, like me! Sit by me! Love me! I hate myself on twitter most days.
  22. My second child was an accident. It is embarrassing to be twenty-eight and married and feel like you are still be surprised that sex leads to babies…but your friends are lying when they tell you that nursing totally works as birth control. But it all works out, my second baby is the proof that God’s plans are better than mine.
  23. I love young adult novels. Sometimes, I pretend that because I teach teens reading what they are into is part of my job. It isn’t. I just straight forwardly love them.
  24. Sometimes, I buy a lottery ticket and really think I am going to win. Really. The last time I threw myself into a tizzy deciding whether or not I would quit my job.
  25. I yell because I care. I get excited, especially in my classroom. But it is only because I care about my students and the subject I teach. Sometimes I come off as a little strong, but it is only because I care and I am no longer interested in toning myself down.
  26. Occasionaly, the tv is the big square babysitter. Not all the time, but when it is my turn to get up on Saturday, and the kids wake up and six…how about some Yo-Gabba-Gabba, Phineas and Ferb, anything.
  27. Most days, I don’t wear make up because I would rather sleep for five more minutes. Then I am surprised when I look in the mirror and it is a little rough..
  28. I gained 70 pounds in my first pregnancy. I was HUNGRY. And I needed 44 ounces of sweet Sonic cherry-limeade goodness. Needed.
  29. I am really loud, and raise very very loud children. I should tell them to knock it off, but I love it. It makes me happy to hear them yelling their hearts out.
  30. I never ever ever ever ever check my voice mail. Text me if you need me.


DSC_0529Abby lives and loves in the city of Atlanta. She has two hilarious children and a husband that doubles as her copy editor and biggest fan. If two in diapers and a full time job teaching English at a local high school don’t keep her busy, you can find her blogging at accidentaldevotional. Abby loves all kinds of Girl Scout cookies, and carries a dream of one day writing a book about teaching in her heart.


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22 thoughts on “Thirty Things I have Decided Not to Be Ashamed of. A guest post from Abby Norman.

  1. Ha! Abby – ii love this.

    Number 21? that’s me. totally. let’s start a GANG.

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  3. Lots of funny ones here. I can relate to #9! Although I am still on it, I can see how it can lead to feelings of inadequacy and is, perhaps, the worst social network to be on if you are trying to simplify and consume less or just plain be content with what you have and who you are:)

  4. this is fantastic – I am number 30 and I would love you to meet my teenage daughters, i think you would be a great influence on them and get on really well (Direction Infection – genius)

  5. I hate checking my voice mail! HATE! Every time someone leaves me a message, I want to scream. I agree, that is what texts are for!

    • If they sold a cell phone that didn’t have voice mail…it wold be amazing (Oh, Abby has the zing….it doesn’t get voice mail) or can the iphone change voicemail into text? Cause if it did I would get one.

  6. What an awesome post! Never mind that several of your points describe me as well (18, 19, 30, & more) … the *idea* of this is incredible! And it’s a challenge that speaks to me, too … am I up to accepting my idiosyncrasies enough to resolve to live a year with “unashamed” as a challenge word? Am I courageous enough to try to formulate, maybe even post, a parallel list of my own? Wow. I don’t know But thank you for writing this!

    • It has been AWESOME! I got my nose pierced, I started asking to guest post places I didn’t think I was cool enough for, I wrote a book proposal, and we aren’t even half way done yet! And the list is so freeing!

  7. I believe #8. God told me in January of 2007 that I would have a daughter. In September 2011, she was born after years of waiting, trying and questioning whether or not I had really heard right.
    And #22? Yeah, totally me. I am now expecting another baby thanks to the same thing. 🙂

  8. Way to own who you are. I love “unashamed” as a word for the year. Mine’s “release” and I’m finding I have to let go a lot of what other people think (or what I think they think).

  9. I love you sister! My favorites are 2 and 8 and 22, the kid ones of course, but I also love 14, 15, and 16. Hope to laugh with you again soon, July baby!!

  10. 3, 4, 19, 23. You and me both, Abby! 25, too.

  11. I love this post, and I want to read those hilarious mystery novels!

  12. Don’t knock your sweaty little people until you reach menopause, Abby! Loved your post.

  13. Everyone should write an I am not ashamed list. (I should write one.)

  14. Hey, don’t judge me, because I put ice cubes in my red wine too! I am also an equal opportunity wine drinker, I’ll have what you’re having.
    How good it is to write down what you believe with courage and abandon. How will we ever know how alike we are, if no one has the nerve to put it out there? Thank you for your humor-filled honesty!

  15. Leaving Pinterest was a good decision! It’s impossible to live up to the creativity that is on display there. I’ve read about that place stressing out a lot of people so it’s not just you (and me)!

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