Sarah McCarten

Thirty things I’d like you to know. A guest post from Beth Morey.


thirty_things Beth is basically brilliant. We are so lucky that she’s agreed to contribute here. I so needed to read this. Do check out her blog and her esty store.

I am not particularly wise or intelligent or good.  But I have lived, thirty years of wounds and beauty.  Here are some things that I have learned along the way, things that I think every person should hear at least once in this quick flicker of life.  Take what you need and leave the rest.

  1. You are not too much.
  2. It’s okay to hurt, and to be honest about that hurt.
  3. Tell your story.  Please, tell it.  It is valuable and profound.  There is something sacred about the sharing of stories, both for the one telling the story and the one receiving it.
  4. There is beauty in pain.  It doesn’t take away the pain, but it’s something.  Look for it, the next time you’re there.
  5. You are never too old to ___________.
  6. Housecleaning can wait.  It’s better to have a full sink because of a full life than the empty versions of both.
  7. You are necessary.  You are valuable.  You are a gift to this world.
  8. Sometimes you need to crawl into bed and cry.  Let yourself do it.  Tears heal.
  9. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that it’s time to be “over it,” whatever “it” might be.  Healing has no timeline.
  10. Don’t suppress your ugly feelings, your scary feelings, your painful feelings.  Feel them. They will come out anyway, and probably in a much more horrible and explosive way if you don’t.  Instead of squashing them down, write/paint/sing/dance/walk/shout/garden them out.
  11. The only way out is through, sometimes.  A lot of times.
  12. Sometimes chocolate is necessary.
  13. (Okay, not really.  But sometimes it feels necessary.  It’s okay to indulge in a little creature comfort from time to time.)
  14. Tell the truth.
  15. But maybe not to everyone.  Tell the truth, but keep your heart safe.  Some people just aren’t open to it, probably because it makes them uncomfortable.  It’s okay to guard your brave flickering flame of truth from those who want to snuff it out.
  16. Don’t be afraid to get uncomfortable.  The edge between comfort and its opposite is where epiphanies happen and change begins.
  17. Move your body in a way that feels nourishing, in a way that you enjoy and look forward to.  Exercise can nourish your body and your soul.
  18. You can’t pick your biological family, but you can pick a new family of soul sisterhood and heart connection.
  19. Your existence is not a mistake.  Your presence is not an imposition.
  20. Your body is beautiful.  Your heart is beautiful.  Your soul is beautiful.
  21. That secret dream you have?  Or the hope that is hidden so deep and seems so silly that you blush at the mere thought of it?  Bring it out into the light.  Shake the dust from it.  Take a class, try something new, take just one tiny step out in its pursuit.
  22. Delight.
  23. When you lose someone or something, our society expects you to grieve, cleanly and privately, for only a few days.  But for many, grief lasts far, far longer.  Take all the time you need.
  24. Make sure you rebel at least once in your life.  Many people stage their rebellions as teenagers.  If you haven’t had your teenage rebellion, ask yourself why.  Then ask yourself — why not now?
  25. Get messy.  Rub your knees in the dirt, let paint stain your clothes, cry the tears your soul’s been holding onto.
  26. When someone tells you to quit being so messy/loud/opinionated/big/selfish, know that they are unhappy, probably jealous of your wild courage, and speak from that stifled place.  Don’t let them stifle you.
  27. Notice the small things.
  28. Collect beauty, whatever that means to you.  Be it art or acorn crowns or cars or kitchen gadgets or that just-right color, surround yourself with it.  Beauty feeds our wild and creative souls.
  29. Drink more water.  Eat less sugar.  You’ll feel better.
  30. Be brave, sweet soul.  You are stronger than you think.

-1Beth is a wife, mama, artist, writer, stillbirth survivor, recovery warrior, photographer, dog wrangler, word devourer, & Jesus lover (not necessarily in that order), writing about finding beauty and truth among the thorny tangles of life at  She is the artist behind Epiphany Art Studio, where she creates whimsical and healing mixed media artwork (  Because don’t we all need a little extra loveliness?

Tomorrow we’ll be hearing from two of the heroes of my life Ruth and Richard Littlehales.

Author: sarahmccarten

11 thoughts on “Thirty things I’d like you to know. A guest post from Beth Morey.

  1. Thanks so much for hosting my words, Sarah! You make me blush. ❤ 🙂

  2. This is just lovely – so much wisdom, I think I might just print it out and put it on the fridge

  3. I love every single one of these! I agree with Brit – SO MUCH WISDOM.

  4. #1….I read it and had to stop and sit with that a while. Thank you for that and for all of these. I needed to hear them tonight.

  5. All I can say is, Amen to the entire list. Beth, you rock! Keep speaking truth, sister.

  6. Beth Love and Love

    Your words are filled with hope and restoration!

  7. Beth
    Love and Love. Your words speak life, hope, and restoration!

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